"Share a meal with a homeless person."
I'd like to reiterate that when I created my "Thirty by 30" list, it was not to have the intention of crossing things off, like "OK, that's been accomplished. Done." My hope and goal is that many of these items will encourage and inspire me to do them more, and that I can be molded into a better person as a result. Of course, there are some items on my list that are more lighthearted than others ("avoid petting the cat for a day", for example:), but on the whole, I take many pretty seriously.
Living in this city has changed my perspective on the homeless and the way we should see them and treat them. Attending our church and listening to the inspiring sermons from JR and Kenny (and Kristian!) have only furthered the desire in me to help these people.
Often times, Steve and I will hand them a $5 McDonald's card, a HFNY resource card, or offer to buy them a meal. We're occasionally turned down, but the majority of our experiences have been positive; those we've helped truly seemed grateful, but we always wonder what more we can do, and I get pretty overwhelemd when I can't help someone. We know we can't help everyone, but sometimes I wonder if my excuses are just that- excuses.
What's all this leading up to? Well, Steve and I have a story to tell.
While running errands up around 86th and Lex this past Fri night, we passed a young woman sitting on the sidewalk with a small cardboard sign that read "homeless- please help." We were pretty loaded down but didn't have any good excuse (there's that word again...) not to stop. I asked her if I could get her something to eat and she smiled and said "Sure, that would be great!" and I let her know I'd be right back with some pizza. I dropped Steve off at Petco with our bags in a shopping cart and went across the street to a pizza joint to get her a slice and a bottle of water.
When I returned, we talked for a little while about her situation and how she got there. Turns out she's married, had a baby several months back and got a severe blood clot as a result, and her husband lost his job while he was caring for her and the baby (in FL at the time). When they moved to her husband's family (in NJ), they were in essence "kicked out" and forced to try their luck on the streets of Philly, leaving their son with his family. After several harrowing experiences there, they decided to catch a bus to NYC and for the past couple of months they've been camping out in an abandoned house in the Bronx, below a few bridges, and behind some bushes they've found.
I told her I'd be back with Steve and some more pizza for her husband, and when we returned we met her husband and spoke with them some more. We told them about our chuch and invited them to come on Sunday; we left them with Steve's "diaconate" card with his number and our church's address, and then couldn't get them out of our minds.
Well, God is good. They showed up Sunday morning, with their pillow case full of their few belongings and were enthusiastic over the service. They sang, took communion, prayed- we were inpressed on Fri night when we met them that they kept bringing up Jesus, and their desire to get back into a church, etc. We never actually told them we were Christian, they just assumed when we mentioned church, that it was that kind of church. Not sure why, but I thought that was pretty cool. We were also impressed that to them, their biggest need right now was to find a job- housing was secondary. We knew they were serious about changing their situation.
It's amazing how the few people we told responded when hearing their story. JR and Kenny immediately offered the churchs' services in finding them a place to stay for the next couple of nights and getting them set up with an unlimited metro card. So our afternoon yesterday was spent getting them set up with metro cards, taking them to a hostel on the UWS and getting them settled there, stocking up on some toiletries and basic needs at a Rite-Aid, and sharing lunch with them.
I envisioned No. 16 on my list quite differently than what we experienced yesterday. There we all were enjoying combo meals at a Subway- four people who you probably would've guessed were just old friends. Much of our conversation was over their experiences as being homeless (days without food, having to pick through trash, getting mugged, being turned down at shelters, etc), but a lot of it was just plain talking- about our likes/dislikes, funny stories, etc.
Well, looks like this post has turned into another one of my very wordy ones, but I could just go on and on and don't really know where to stop- so much to say! Steve and I are feeling so much right now, and we know that we've made a commitment to this couple and that we must be willing to leverage our own lives now (our comforts, our resources, our time) to help them. We left them yesterday in a youth hostel with an air-conditioned room, clean sheets, and a shower for them for two nights, along with a packet full of resources from HFNY; from there, we're hoping to get them set up in another hostel or the "Y" while we (and AC) help them in looking for jobs, etc.
It's such a comfort and blessing to have our awesome church behind us, and all that they have already done to help. We'll hopefully be in touch with them tonight (someone bought them a phone the other day- how cool is that???) to see how they're doing, and we're hoping they'll join our Community Group this week.
Pray for our new friends. We pray that they will find a job to start them on their way of getting back on their feet; we pray that they will find affordable housing; we pray that they will experience God's love and provision through this time. Please also pray for Steve and I- that we will know how best to minister to them, and also have wisdom in discerning which ways we're unable to help.
There will certainly be more on this new chapter of our lives, and thanks for taking the time to read this ...